Epic Career Failure or Letdown? What do you do next?
I think I’ve finally come to accept that I’m in a perpetual state of transition. Not only am I realizing it is just part of being Jen, but it is what makes me great at what I do. For the longest time I attributed my transitions to my less than stellar relationship choices as an adult. What I am realizing is it is part of someone who is actively living and participating in life.
My Public Jump
At the beginning of 2016, I decided to ramp down my business to pursue an opportunity that felt right to me. My soul latched on to it and I began to do my due diligence. It checked out. I did the required relationship building just to make sure. And then…I jumped.
I publicly announced my decision to join a start-up and move 2000 miles away from home to settle in Los Angeles. I was excited, a little proud even and ready to immerse into a whole new way of life. Four weeks after I landed on the ground and hosted a big event, I found myself separating from the company.
The thing is, I take risk. Not in a “move the table outside at a restaurant” kind of risk, but rather the “it’s time for a good change and this could be awesome” kind of risk. I’ve been moving my whole life so to uproot and go again wasn’t a big deal. So I don’t know anyone in California, so what.
Sometimes life is asking you to take the risk. To be bold. To get up and move. To do things that might leave you feeling like you got your pants dropped in public.
Part of it is my personality makeup. I’m a classic ENFJ and Idealist. Top that with being a super bold Leo and you can see the recipe of the characteristics I work with daily. Frankly, I scare the crap out of my entire family. I go big or I don’t go at all.
How Do I Deal With It?
Before I break down your lesson of the day here, let me wrap up my story. I’ve had far worse and even more embarrassing things happen to me in my life. I’m still here and better for each and every mishap. My intuition is still strongly telling me there is greater purpose for me being here and the “epic fail” was really my stepping stone.
Great things really are around the corner.
Here’s what you need to know when you go big for something and it doesn’t work out exactly as planned.
Sometimes things just don’t work out. There are always other variables and factors that pop up that are outside of your control — or your best judgement before you jump in the situation.
You’ve likely been through worse and know that you will survive this too.
Don’t panic. Look for what good comes out of your situation and learn from it.
Be grateful that you were bold enough to get up off the couch and go for it! Most – I don’t have a number here but seriously like hardly anyone – don’t ever get enough courage to jump. You’re in great company if you do!
Failure is not a cool word. Reframe how you think about it and realize that it is learning what doesn’t work for you or isn’t right for you.
Regroup. Get clarity and get moving again. The world needs you.
The fact of the matter here is this. Nothing about me has changed except I’ve grown and learned some new stuff in the last few months. So when you experience a letdown (privately or publicly) remember that you’ve grown and learned something new too. Don’t let it cause you to stall and miss your next big growth opportunity!
I feel a kinship to Thomas Edison regarding his famous quote:
I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. – Thomas Edison
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