Epic Career Failure or Letdown? What do you do next?
I think I’ve finally come to accept that I’m in a perpetual state of transition. Not only am I realizing it is just part of being Jen, but it is what makes me great at what I do. For the longest time I attributed my transitions to my less than stellar relationship choices as an adult. What I am realizing is it is part of someone who is actively living and participating in life.
My Public Jump
At the beginning of 2016, I decided to ramp down my business to pursue an opportunity that felt right to me. My soul latched on to it and I began to do my due diligence. It checked out. I did the required relationship building just to make sure. And then…I jumped.
I publicly announced my decision to join a start-up and move 2000 miles away from home to settle in Los Angeles. I was excited, a little proud even and ready to immerse into a whole new way of life. Four weeks after I landed on the ground and hosted a big event, I found myself separating from the company.
The thing is, I take risk. Not in a “move the table outside at a restaurant” kind of risk, but rather the “it’s time for a good change and this could be awesome” kind of risk. I’ve been moving my whole life so to uproot and go again wasn’t a big deal. So I don’t know anyone in California, so what.
Sometimes life is asking you to take the risk. To be bold. To get up and move. To do things that might leave you feeling like you got your pants dropped in public.
Part of it is my personality makeup. I’m a classic ENFJ and Idealist. Top that with being a super bold Leo and you can see the recipe of the characteristics I work with daily. Frankly, I scare the crap out of my entire family. I go big or I don’t go at all.
How Do I Deal With It?
Before I break down your lesson of the day here, let me wrap up my story. I’ve had far worse and even more embarrassing things happen to me in my life. I’m still here and better for each and every mishap. My intuition is still strongly telling me there is greater purpose for me being here and the “epic fail” was really my stepping stone.
Great things really are around the corner.
Here’s what you need to know when you go big for something and it doesn’t work out exactly as planned.
Sometimes things just don’t work out. There are always other variables and factors that pop up that are outside of your control — or your best judgement before you jump in the situation.
You’ve likely been through worse and know that you will survive this too.
Don’t panic. Look for what good comes out of your situation and learn from it.
Be grateful that you were bold enough to get up off the couch and go for it! Most – I don’t have a number here but seriously like hardly anyone – don’t ever get enough courage to jump. You’re in great company if you do!
Failure is not a cool word. Reframe how you think about it and realize that it is learning what doesn’t work for you or isn’t right for you.
Regroup. Get clarity and get moving again. The world needs you.
The fact of the matter here is this. Nothing about me has changed except I’ve grown and learned some new stuff in the last few months. So when you experience a letdown (privately or publicly) remember that you’ve grown and learned something new too. Don’t let it cause you to stall and miss your next big growth opportunity!
This is in the Top Three list of phrases I hear the most from others. I would argue that our breakthrough is waiting for us to be ready for it!
In order to welcome in something new, you need to make some adjustments to what you currently are doing.
Here is a 20 minute video training on the 10 essential areas you need to prepare to get your breakthrough in life or business.
The 10 Essentials
Take the time to find space and recharge. Naps are always great! But, rest is about taking the time to find some peace and reconnect with you.
STRETCH YOURSELF & PRESS IN
Get out of your box! Press in to what is coming with anticipation. Your comfort zone will never accommodate a breakthrough.
OPEN YOUR MIND & CHANGE PERSPECTIVES
You must stop doing what you normally do. Get fresh insight. Look for a new viewpoint and open your mind so that you can find clarity and see in new ways.
LISTEN & BE COACHABLE
Be open to new insight and feedback from others. Remaining coachable will lead to success.
DO SOMETHING CREATIVE
Read a good book. Create art or music. Go on an adventure and explore. You’ll gain fresh perspectives and feel recharged!
STOP TRYING TO FIT IN
Again, you are wanting to create and experience something new. Stay in alignment with who you are so that you experience a real change.
RELEASE THE HYPE
Let go of the dogma and boundaries that may be holding you back from moving forward. Let go of finite set of perceptions so you can expand your borders. Create places of hope and release the negatives.
CLEAN HOUSE & CHANGE PLAYGROUNDS
Some folks in our circles are only intended for a season. Take a look at who you surround yourself and identify if anyone is limiting you from moving into the next phase of your journey.
GET OUT OF YOUR RUTS
[Tweet “A rut is a coffin with the ends kicked out. “]
Change how and what you do. You can’t create a space for a breakthrough if you are stuck in your habits. The way you’ve always done it isn’t working. Time for a change!
MEET YOURSELF WHERE YOU ARE TODAY
Let go of the expectations you currently hold that tell you you should be further down the road or doing something differently. It is a journey. It will never look like you think it should look. Meet yourself where you are today!
Your takeaway here is to stop your “doing” and start the “being”. Be you and implement the essentials. You will begin to see things shift rapidly and that breakthrough will show up!
Which of these areas has been a game changer for you?
Share with us your breakthrough stories!
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As Leaders, Managers, Coaches, Mentors and Team Leaders, it is our responsibility to lead conversations of value. One of the ways we can do this is by using high-gain questions to produce more value-add for everyone involved.
Using high-gain questions in our conversations conveys respect, shows that we value opinions, and they value connection. Our conversations should not be one-way streets that lead no where. Engage those around you. Ask them to create and contribute. You’ll see your relationships deepen, morale improve, and productivity and performance increase.
I’ve had several online conversations this morning that have led me to a new revelation. Everyone in community is a teacher.
Community. It likely means something different to each person who reads the word. I would say it is the people we are in relationship with – those we do life with – and this can be in business, strangers you encounter at the store, or your group of besties.
Here is the reason for my theory.
I’ve been coaching and developing people for the last decade. I teach or instruct others by guiding and encouraging them with transformative methodologies. Mostly, my work is based on the knowledge I’ve aquired through my own experience. But let me be very clear, I don’t have it all worked out yet. Not even close.
Life is a journey. And, even as we become more equipped and empowered we still have a journey to take. We hit high points, we encounter low points. We plateau. It’s this beautiful way the Universe teaches us how-to adjust, dig in for more of life, and have the capacity to do so.
Here is my point – as I’m walking out life making adjustments and equipping people to do the same, I find that they teach me new perspectives and often are the reminders I need in my own life.
What? You think an expert has it all figured out?! No. In fact, if they tell you they do just run!
If we stop to learn from our conversations and interactions, I believe every person we encounter in community can foster our growth. Therefore, everyone can teach us something vital to our survival.
Take the time to listen, to be engaged, to be active in your encounters.
Be open to the nuggets of gold an interaction has for you personally.
Never be stingy with your love and empathy.
And never ever ever, discount what another human can show you about the world or yourself.
We can all be Agents of Change. All teachers and all students. All encouragers.
So who can you begin to learn from? Get out of your own head and engage with the world around you. It will be an eye opener, a perspective shift, and an accelerator to your growth and success.
The beautiful thing about community is that there is always someone who has gone before you to give you a hand. And, there is always someone looking to you to extend the hand for them. We are never alone in community.